So after a recent conversation with friends something has been weighing on me. Not everyone has the same heart as you. That is a hard pill for me to swallow because I have a big heart, like a really big heart. I am here to say that is not always a good thing. I spend more time thinking about others than I could even imagine thinking about myself. When I am in a room with others I want them to feel comfortable, even when I am in their house. I always want people to feel loved and accepted. I choose my words carefully depending on who I talk to because I always want them to feel better after having a conversation with me. I think about what others tell me often so I can be sure to follow up with them about what is going on in their lives. Spreading love and joy is an active part of my life, as it is for so many people.
The thing about this is that not everyone has the same level of love and compassion for you as you have for them. You could be so conscious of your support and love for someone and they could in fact not show you an ounce of the same love back. Your friends are going to say things that hurt your feelings, they aren’t going to be as considerate as you are to them. People won’t always remember what you share with them because they won’t make it a priority to know what is going on in your life as you do with them. And that hurts, right? When it is not reciprocated it can be defeating. But only if you choose.
Not everyone has the same heart as you. If you choose to let it defeat you, then it will.
Not everyone has the same heart as you and that’s okay. If you choose, you can continue to spread that love and joy and compassion. You can continue to be the light in everyone’s lives because chances are that you will touch at least one person and help them to be the light in others lives too. At the end of the day the only thing that matters is if you are happy with who you are and how you’re living your life. To me, ensuring that I am a caring, compassionate and kind person will always be important.
Don’t get me wrong, there have been plenty of times where I have put my foot in my mouth. I have said something that I thought and as soon as it got out of my mouth I knew it was a bad idea to have even thought it. I am sure that I have hurt someone without even realizing it, we all have. But the important part about growing is that you take everything as a learning opportunity. When things like this arise, you can step up, apologize and move on. Try again the next day to be the most caring, compassionate and kind soul in the room.
You choose each day the kind of person you want to show up as and be remembered by. Will it be encouraging and a light for others or will it be bitter because you’ve been burned by hearts that maybe aren’t as big as yours?
What will you choose today?