My top personal growth books.

I love reading personal growth or personal development books! I enjoy reading a variety of book but personal growth books just give me so much to think about and help me learn so much. They give me inspiration to become a better person and share with others. So I compiled a list of my top 4 personal growth books. These each have a dear place in my heart for one reason or another! They are also pretty different in terms of information and the way they present ideas. I think there is a book for anyone interested in personal development in this list!

  • Own Your Everyday by Jordan Lee Dooley
    • If you feel stuck, overwhelmed and like you have to figure out your “calling” and have something to prove to others, this book is for you! Jordan Lee Dooley outlines ways to get out of that mindset and learn how to start showing up everyday for yourself and what you were made to do! She shares her own experiences as well as lines out strategies to help with pressure we feel, our own mindset and so many other things. Dooley also shares her faith and how it has helped immensely in her journey.
    • Jordan Lee Dooley also hosts a podcast titled “SHE”. This podcast is available on the iTunes podcast app, Spotify, Google Play and Stitcher. In her podcast she speaks on so many helpful topics, shares conversations with professionals and other influencers and gives advice in many areas of life and business. I listen to this podcast weekly and would definitely recommend!
  • Untamed by Glennon Doyle
    • Anything Glennon Doyle shares is just a masterpiece in my opinion. Her authenticity is so inspiring and draws so many to her. In Untamed she shares how to find yourself. How to break down all that you are and all that you are not and sift through it all to find the confidence to solely embrace who you are. She shares her own stories and you are sure to find something to relate to. I have read this book three times now and love it just the same. If you struggle with being 100% authentic 100% of the time, I could not recommend a better book. I think in this day and age with social media being such a huge part of life, Untamed shares a perspective that shatters that perfect profile pressure and really makes you think about what is truly important in life. Not to mention, each time I read this book it left me feeling like a badass.
  • Atomic Habits by James Clear
    • This book outlines how to build those small habits that lead to big results. It breaks everything down step by step and even shares how to break some of those bad habits you have. I really love how straightforward this book is and makes you think about things a bit more simplistically. Sometimes when we think about the big goals that we have and the things we want to become we can become overwhelmed. James Clear really presents his system in a way that feels simple to start and achieve. It isn’t about how fast we can reach those things that we want, it is about building small habits to become the person that we want. That way we can eventually achieve those big goals. I could not recommend a better book for those of us that struggle with sticking to those habits we want to build.
  • The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins
    • A simple tactic to achieve huge results. Mel Robbins introduces her 5 second rule and shows so many different scenarios in which it works for you. The book even has recommendations by others that have used the 5 second rule for themselves. They share their experience and how it has changed their lives. This book has helped change my life as well in so many ways. The biggest help being that when my alarm goes off in the morning, I use the 5 second rule and then get the heck up and out of bed! My days have honestly been transformed by this idea and I have used the 5 second rule in so many situations since first learning about it. Once you start using it, it becomes such a great tool to have!

I hope you found something interesting in at least one of these books! And if so, I hope you read the book for yourself! All of these are currently available to purchase on Amazon at the time I am writing this post! If you are currently reading or have read a good personal growth book, please comment and share it with me! I would love to get some recommendations.

All the love,

Amber

26 lessons for turning 26.

Yesterday was my 26th birthday and I thought it would be a perfect time to share and reflect on the years. Some of these are things I have been working on for a while and some of them are brand new to my life. I am by no means an expert on ANY of these. I just think that if I learned it, I can share and hopefully something will resonate with someone else! So here is a compiled list of 26 lessons for turning 26.

  1. There is no such thing as too much coffee. This is just fact, nobody can tell me otherwise.
  2. Worry about yourself too. As much time as you spend worrying about other people, make sure you pour into yourself too! This one is definitely hard for me and I have to continue reminding myself it from time to time.
  3. Begin each day with a clean slate. As easy as it is to carry things into the next day from the day before, it is important to clear out too. Starting each day with as clean of a slate as possible has been something I have been focusing on in the last few months! Don’t carry things that are too heavy.
  4. Learn to say no confidently. Learning to say no was a hard lesson, but learning to say it confidently was even harder. Girl, say no and say it with confidence!
  5. Always be reading a book. This one is self explanatory. Always be reading something!
  6. Luck isn’t real. Being lucky isn’t a thing. If you go through life thinking that some people are just “lucky” and you aren’t… that is just not healthy. If you think you’re going to get good things in life, then you will. If you think you aren’t, you won’t. Manifest that stuff y’all. Don’t rely on luck!
  7. Choose kindness as often as you can. Do it. It is so easy to get caught up in small, petty things. But at the end of the day, your actions define you. To me, there is no better definition of myself that I want to be true than kind.
  8. You can forgive others, even when they are not sorry. Oof, this one. It is so hard. When others do you wrong and aren’t even sorry about it. That is so rough. But this goes back to the “start each day with a clean slate” thing. If I carry that weight of holding that grudge or those ill feelings toward someone every time they weren’t sorry for doing something that hurt me, it would be a lot of weight I’m sure. People are going to hurt you, but you can still forgive them. Forgive them, let it go and move on. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. But it sure makes you feel better when you aren’t constantly carrying that weight.
  9. Do whatever makes you happy. Ugh, so much this. If you like to drink coffee, drink it all. If you like trading Pokemon cards, amazing! If going to the gym everyday makes you happy, awesome. If watching Dr. Phil makes you happy, great. Do whatever makes YOU happy. Who cares what other people think!
  10. It’s okay to feel lost. Give yourself some grace. Say it with me, “It is okay to feel lost”. It is okay. It is okay to not be okay. It is okay to go through rough times without having something “tragic” happen in your life. You don’t have to feel okay and on track just because other people view your life as being “fine”. You have every right to feel lost and not okay. Give yourself some grace, fight to get yourself back and back on track, and keep going.
  11. Learn to be okay on your own. Learn to be okay without a significant other and without friends all the time. I have been working on this for a few years now. I am okay being on my own, but I want to reach the level of comfortability that I can go out to eat alone and just take myself out to do things without the need to even just be texting someone or on my phone the whole time. I want to reach the level of peace within myself where I am comfortable just being on my own wherever and whenever.
  12. Always trust your intuition. THIS. There have been so many times where I have questioned myself because maybe other people saw things differently or had different opinions. But then it turns out that I should have just trusted myself.
  13. Comparison is the thief of joy. Yeah yeah, we have all heard it a million times. But seriously, with the amount of things we are subjected to each day through all our screens it can become SO easy to compare yourself to others. You are you and they are them. You have been so many places and done so many things and so have they. You are both amazing. You have so many great qualities about you and so do they. You are both amazing. You see so many great things about them, others see so many great things about you. Just don’t compare yourself. Practice acknowledging those things you admire without getting down on yourself.
  14. Always be you. This does go hand in hand with the whole don’t compare thing. It just takes it a step further. I think that sometimes when we compare it is easy to fall into the mold of what is “on trend”. Sure, doing things on trend can be fun, but you don’t have to. Constantly remind yourself that it is okay to just be you.
  15. Practice being grateful. Being grateful is an active practice. We cannot just magically become grateful by doing it once. You have to continue to practice being grateful each and every day. It is work, just like anything else.
  16. If you can change your thoughts you can change your life. It’s no secret that our thoughts and the way we speak to ourselves can have a huge impact on our days. If you can actively change those thoughts that aren’t serving you, think about how much better an impact your thoughts can have on you! Just some food for thought 😉
  17. Always forgive yourself. Earlier I mentioned forgiving others. Well, it is important to forgive yourself too. You are not and never will be perfect. No one is. That is okay. Stop holding yourself to the mistake you made 5 years ago. Forgive yourself. Start each day with a clean slate. Decipher the lesson out of the mistake and forgive yourself. No need to carry the burden any longer.
  18. Not everyone is going to like you and thats okay. We have all heard this before too, I’m sure. Well it is true! Not everyone is going to like you. That is FINE. You will be okay! You have your people that love you and that is all that matters.
  19. The way you react says more about you than anything else. This. The way you choose to react to things that happen to you says SO much about you.
  20. Quality time with your people is important. Prioritize spending time with your friends and family. And not just spending time with them but spending quality time and building those relationships. It is so important to fuel those relationships with the ones in your corner.
  21. The fears we don’t face become our limits. I’ll leave this one for what it is. Just think about it. Do the work, figure out your fears that are becoming your limits. I’m sure you can find at least one.
  22. You are and always will be enough. Trust me, you are.
  23. Don’t water dead plants. Don’t do it!!! There is a reason that the plant died. It is probably because you were the only one taking care of the plant. You can’t do it alone. You tried your best. Stop watering it.
  24. Chase YOUR dreams and YOUR goals for YOU. You don’t have to explain your goals and dreams to anyone else. Chase them for you. Not anyone else.
  25. Romanticize your life more. Yes. Turn your mornings into stories and your nights with friends into fairytales. Don’t just passively live life. Turn your life into something bigger. Those things that you love to do or that take up your me time. It is not just empty space between work and obligations. You are writing the story of your life each and every day. Act like it!
  26. Never stop learning. Never, ever. Always find lesson always think about your application. There is something to learn from each day if you look for it!

Take what you need, leave what you don’t! Stay positive, spread the love and be kind friends 🙂

All the love,

Amber

What you choose to focus on will grow.

We have all heard that before, I’m sure. What you choose to focus on will grow. Makes sense, right? If you choose to focus on your goals, you will grow until you reach those goals. If you choose to focus on positivity, the positivity within you will continue to grow. But, the same goes when you choose to focus on those negative things.

I think over the last year there have been many, many things to focus on that could be negative. Our realities were essentially ripped away from us, our families and our communities. The inconsistency that life has brought into our lives has really thrown us all off. I know that it was easy for me to set my focus on the negative things going on around me, which grew the negativity inside me. I was a positive person on the surface, but as time went on I found myself gravitating toward the negativity instead of the positive. It took a lot of work, but by actively choosing to focus on things that would help me grow where I need and want, I have become that truly positive person again. Some days it is so hard to choose and maintain my focus, other days it’s easy. But it is a choice you have to make.

Here are some of my tips to help you step out and choose your focus each day!

  1. Choose your focus areas or goals. This could be ANYTHING you want. Whether it is health and fitness related, monetary, something you want to work towards or something you want to be. Your focus areas and goals are your own to choose. I recommend writing them down and keeping them somewhere you can read and remind yourself of each and every day. I think this is important because it is easy to lose track of all the different areas you want to grow with your busy life. Just hitting reset and reading them each chance you get can help maintain that focus.
  2. Journaling! Journaling has seriously helped me focus SO much on the things I want. I journal differently each day, depending on what I need. Some days it is a brain dump just to get those things out of my head that don’t need to be there. Some days it is a complete story to get out my feelings about things going on in my life. Some days it is more like a diary, because if I can get those things out on paper, I won’t be inclined to dwell on them. My journal is where I get rid of everything I don’t want to focus on and bring forward everything I do want to focus on so I can grow.
  3. Meditation and Affirmations. For me, this looks like leading myself through a short yoga session, really focusing on my breath and letting all feelings of stress go. I also use affirmations within my journaling as well as read them on my vision board each morning.
  4. Spread joy in your conversations, not negativity. This one can be a bit hard. Monitoring each and every conversation can be rough. But going into your interactions with those around you with the intention of spreading joy can help keep those conversations positive and up lifting. Obviously, things are not butterflies and rainbows all the time, but if you can focus on that positive side more often than the negative, it will increase your chances of growing!
  5. Stick to your focus or goals, don’t feel bad about it. Your choice of focus or goals are important to you. So treat them as such! Sometimes it is easy to get so caught up in other areas of our lives that we let what is truly important to ourselves go. This is the part where you have to wake up each day and consistently choose your focus over and over again. Otherwise you can stray so far away from your priorities you find yourself not working towards anything for yourself. You deserve better!

These are just some of the things that have worked for myself. This time has been difficult on us all, so remember to give grace as well. It is important to remind yourself we are all going through different things and struggling in different ways. Be kind, spread love and focus on those good things! Here’s to a great month!

All the love,

Amber

New Year Check-In!

So if you’re anything like me you love the idea of a fresh start and new beginning. Well today marks 13 days into the new year, the new year I think we were all ready for. Realistically we all know that we weren’t going to open our eyes to a bright and shiny 2021, with all of our problems promised to be fixed. But, there is something about the magic that a new year brings! I hope you made some resolutions, wrote down some goals, made a vision board or did some self reflecting during this time on what you want the new year to bring! If you didn’t, use this time now to go for it! If you already did something like this before the first, check in with yourself on what you established. Below are a list of questions/prompts to help!

What are you most grateful for from 2020? Let’s be honest, I know on the surface there is not much. But there has to be at least one thing you can be grateful for from 2020!

What were your favorite moments of 2020?

What are your goals or resolutions for 2021?

How are you going to accomplish those goals or approach those resolutions? This is the most important part! If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

What is your word of 2021? I used to think this was silly and that it just wasn’t even possible for me to narrow down everything I wanted out of a whole year to just one word. But this year I decided to choose one. My word for the year is growth. I felt like it was something I strived for in 2020 but didn’t quite attack like I had wanted to. Now, my focus is narrowed and I work towards it every day.

What are you letting go of in 2021? A new year is a fresh start and brings the opportunity to let go of things you don’t need. This can be anything; people, ideas, thoughts, anything.

What are you embracing in 2021? So now that you have let go of something, embrace something else! Again, this could be anything.

If you haven’t gone for your goals or resolutions the way you’d hoped, don’t be too hard on yourself! We are only two weeks in, you can reset and get to it now! This last year has been hard on us all, give yourself some grace. The inspiration and motivation has to come from you, do the work to find it and then get after it!

Happy two weeks into the new year everyone 🙂

21 Ways to Spread Joy in 2021

Now that we have entered a new year, one of my personal goals is to remain focused on spreading more joy. I think that this has been something that has always been a priority to me, however in 2020 it was easy to let my feelings about what was going on the world or wherever get me down and sometimes drive me to speak a bit more negatively than I would like. So this year I want to get myself in the habit of spreading all the joy I can! I believe that the more joy you can spread to others, the more joy you will have yourself! Shifting to a positive perspective can do wonders for your day to day!

So if you’re like me and have a goal to spread more joy in 2021, here are 21 ideas to help you get started!

  1. Buy someone a coffee/drink! Doing something as small as buying a friend or stranger a coffee or their favorite drink can mean so much! Choose a friend and just send them a few bucks or pay it forward in line!
  2. SMILE and say hello to a stranger! Even though we are wearing masks, you can always tell when someone is giving you a smile! It always makes my day to make even the smallest connection with a stranger.
  3. Give a compliment! You never know what others are going through and your compliment could make their day. It could be exactly what they needed to hear!
  4. Share something positive on social media! Share something good that happened to you, a positive quote or picture of something that makes you happy. Social media can be so negative so sharing the positivity can spread more joy than you think.
  5. Cheer someone on! There are so many people doing awesome things in their lives. Choose one and send them some encouragement! This could be as small as sending someone a text or commenting on a photo or post of theirs!
  6. Donate clothes/books/anything! Things you don’t use or need anymore can be so helpful to others. This may not be a joy that you yourself will see, but even if one person gets one of your things, it could mean so much.
  7. Tell someone how much they mean to you! Learning that you are appreciated in any way is such a great thing to hear. So often we hear the negative, so getting out that positive can always help!
  8. Write a handwritten letter to someone! Receiving a handwritten letter is always so appreciated! It could be a thank you note, a check in, just some words of encouragement or a good quotes, or even a funny joke!
  9. Be kind to your server or cashier! A nice conversation with you could be the only one they have that day at their job. Spread that kindness!
  10. Share what you are grateful for! Sharing things you are grateful for can encourage others to think about what they are grateful for. It reminds us that we have a lot of good in our lives and can kickstart that joy!
  11. Create something for someone! A drawing, painting, photo, note, something you usually sell, anything. Being creative can help put yourself in a good mindset and giving it to someone else can help spread so much joy!
  12. Leave a positive comment on a social media post! This could be a friend, family member, or even a business page you follow! Kind words can mean so much and when put publicly it can encourage others to do the same.
  13. Bring something to a friend! With good friends you can usually tell what they need. Dropping off even the smallest of things can spread so much joy to a friend who may really need it! The gift itself isn’t too important, its the thought that counts!
  14. Call or FaceTime someone you haven’t checked in with in a while! It is always nice to catch up with a friend and see what is going on in their life. Set up a FaceTime coffee date and enjoy each other’s company!
  15. Lend your favorite book to a friend! I don’t know about you but things like that just make my heart so happy.
  16. Just being nice! Greeting everyone, sharing a smile, speaking kindly and remaining uplifting in general can spread so much joy!
  17. Make someone laugh! Whether its a friend, co-worker or stranger, making others laugh is fun 🙂
  18. Make your favorite meal or bake something for someone! Make some cookies and take them to friends, make a meal for your family or pick up donuts in the morning before work!
  19. Share what brings you joy! Simply sharing what brings you joy can spread it to others so quickly.
  20. Create a care package for someone! Especially right now, caring for those that are sick is so important. You can make them a nice little care package and drop it off at their door, completely socially distant!
  21. Be kind to yourself! You can’t spread joy into others if you aren’t kind to yourself. Make YOU a priority too!

I hope that this year is much kinder to us all than the last. I hope that even through the struggles and challenges you can find ways to spread joy to others! Here’s to a joyful year!

Make a plan, shift your mindset.

If you know me, you know I LOVE my planner and I could not survive without it. I plan just about every single minute of my life and I like to stick to my plan. Writing everything out in different colors into my planner honestly makes me so happy. I love seeing everything I have going on for the month and planning out my day each day. It gives me some organization and accountability.

Like myself, I’m sure you have one thousand different things going on and it can feel overwhelming at times. From meetings to appointments, work to family, social to just things on your to do list… there are so many things to accomplish within the day, week or even month. Writing all of those things out on paper and seeing them altogether can be a source of anxious feelings. I don’t know about you, but usually when I get anxious I don’t make the best decisions and tend to avoid whatever is making me anxious. When in reality, if I just shift my mindset I can conquer the anxious feeling and whatever else I need to get done.

When I look at my calendar now, I think about all the things I GET to do throughout the month. When I create my plan for the day it consists of things that I need to get done, but those are also things I GET to do. I GET to go to work every day because I have a job. I GET to workout each day because I have a body that is capable of doing so. I GET to go to the grocery store because I have money to spend and a body to fuel. I GET to do laundry because I have a washer, dryer and running water at my house. Changes your whole perspective, right?

Now, I know there are just some things that you HAVE to do. But challenge yourself to take that thing that you really don’t want to do or just don’t enjoy doing and think about what you get to do instead. Sure, you still have to do the thing, but it doesn’t seem so bad when you get to do it. It’s a simple way to remind yourself that no matter how rough your day is or how many things you have to get done, there is always something to be grateful for.

So this week, I challenge you to reframe your mindset on your plans and to do lists. It’s so simple, but so freeing, to start off your day being grateful instead of anxious or frustrated with what your day looks like.

I hope you have the best week and get all the things accomplished!

All the love,

Amber

Step into the uncomfy.

Recently I’ve been doing a lot of things that scare me. These things range in level but nonetheless, they scare me. By nature I always take precaution in every single thing that I do. My mind immediately goes to the “what ifs” and the “maybe this could happens”. I am constantly thinking about what could go wrong and what could happen in every situation and decision(I’m an enneagram 6 if you can’t tell). I know it can be to my detriment but it’s how I have always been.

So recently I have decided to start doing things that scare me. Things that are getting me out of my comfort zone and into the uncomfy, as I like to call it. I’ve been doing some little things but also some pretty big things, at least they are to me. If you would have asked me a year ago if I would be running a blog and letting everyone know my thoughts and feelings about things I would have thought you were crazy. I always wanted to start this blog, but it was a scary feeling to put myself out into a space and share my thoughts, feelings and ideas. That sounded like one big space to be judged, and it kind of is. But once I started doing it, it wasn’t so scary anymore. I found that I have a lot more support than I ever thought I would. I also found that even if people are judging me, it’s okay because I am comfortable with what I am putting out there because it is genuine. The confidence that has stemmed from my comfortability with what I am producing means so much more than a scary feeling that internet strangers might judge me. My self growth and self worth means more than other people’s opinions.

Let me say it again for you- My self growth and self worth means more than other people’s opinions.

If YOU are happy with YOU, then that is what truly matters. If you aren’t happy with you, maybe you need to go into the uncomfy and do something that scares you. Gain some control back in your life and stop letting your comfort zone dictate what you do everyday. It could be anything. Start small, say hi to a stranger if that scares you. Or go big and force yourself to call up that person you’ve liked forever and ask them on a date. It honestly doesn’t matter where you start, but start.

You don’t want to think about those things in the uncomfy and wonder what would have happened if you would have just gone for it. Just do it and see what happens! Because even if that first thing you choose in the uncomfy doesn’t work out, my guess is that there’s something out there that will. Keep going for it, keep doing the scary things. You might find something that brings you more joy than anything in the world. Or maybe you will find something that leads to a new passion or career. But most importantly, you might find a way to love your self and become more comfortable with yourself. There is no greater win than that.

I hope you find a way to step into the uncomfy this week, it could be the best step you ever take.

All the love,

Amber

Why being left out is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

Being left out honestly does suck. But I believe it is inevitable. No matter what happens in life, you will never be included in everything. Things happen and people make bad choices. Sometimes you will be deliberately left out and other times things happen and it is not done on purpose. But whatever the reason, it can still hurt. I believe that social media and the idea of FOMO(fear of missing out) has made the idea of being left out that much worse and that much harder to deal with. But having experienced this at a young age in a deliberate, and public, way, it shaped my decisions from there on out.

You see, back in high school I was deliberately left out of something. To spare the details, because it really doesn’t matter anymore, I was left out of something that was kept a secret. It was revealed that I was left out in a pretty public way. It was humiliating and I was pretty hurt by it all. What hurt me the most was the way it was handled, not even the fact that I was left out.

Believe me, I have been left out on more than that occasion. I have been left out before and probably will be again at some point I’m sure. But this was just a pivotal moment and changed my thought process on the whole thing. So I attribute that experience to helping me grow into the person I am today.

It made me a better person. It made me learn how to stick up for myself in ways I had never done before. It made me learn to stand on my own two feet and not be so dependent on others. It taught me to be gracious with others even when I wanted to be upset with them. It taught me to be loyal and love other people even more. It taught me to try my hardest to ensure other people are included. It taught me to notice others more and pay attention to their feelings. It taught me to be both gentle and deliberate with my actions knowing that the way I handle things says more about me than my actions.

I’m not perfect by any means, and I am sure I have left others out unintentionally. I’m sure I have hurt others feelings and made the wrong choices. But because it happened to me, I am more aware of the repercussions. I am aware that people can get their feelings hurt by my actions. I am also more willing to step up and apologize when I have made a mistake or hurt someone.

I took that moment in time and navigated my way through to becoming a better person. I worked hard to not let it harden me and even remained friends with those that hurt me. Sure, the friendship wasn’t quite what it was before, but friendships change as you grow anyways. I didn’t let it make me bitter, instead I learned to be better. To be better at friendships, to be better at relationships in general, to actively choose be a better person each day. It didn’t happen overnight and I really had to work toward it, and am still making progress today. But I am proud of the person that being left out has pushed me to be.

I hope that you are able to take situations like this and turn them into lessons. No matter what happens, you deserve to be treated with love and respect. I hope you know that and I hope that when others treat you poorly you continue to treat them with love and respect back, no matter what they have done to you. It is a never ending fight to continue to learn and grow. I don’t think that making the right choices will be easy 100% of the time, no matter how much you learn and grow. Choosing to be a better person is just that, a choice that has to be made each and every day.

So what are you going to choose today?

All the love,

Amber

Just be nice.

In this day and age, people are so busy all the time. Even throughout having to quarantine people have remained involved in so many things to keep themselves busy. I know that I have always been a person that likes to keep themselves busy because I really enjoy being involved in a lot of things and filling my days with things to do. I like the lifestyle of always being on the go and getting things done. I think that a lot of people are like that as well.

Think about the people in your life, you likely know them from one aspect of your own life. You see them through your own unique lens. You know them because you met at this organization you decided to be a part of. So you only really see them at this organizations events and meetings. You may learn various facts about them through conversation but you still have that unique lens of who they really are and what they are going through. They could be going through something at home, or their pet could have passed away recently, or maybe they are actually a spy for their day job and you just have no idea. My point is, because of circumstance, environment just being busy ourselves, and simply because life doesn’t allow it, you will never fully know what others have going on in their lives.

You have this lens that you see people through. You take one off and put on another that is unique to them. We all have the ability to see people differently because people are different. You will never be able to have the exact same relationship with multiple people because people are different. You might be thinking….. well duh. That is common sense, right? But along with that, you will never fully see all that they are going through, processing, dealing with and experiencing. So the lens with which you see them through could be extremely distorted. You have “rose colored glasses,” if you will.

Because of this, just be nice. Be nice to EVERYONE you interact with. Your barista, the teller at the bank, the cashier at Target, the kid in the drive thru, your coworkers, your friends, your family, everyone. You NEVER know what others are going through. No matter how close you are to them, just be nice. You genuinely don’t know everything they have going on. So just be nice! You could make their day.

And who knows, it could make your day too! I know that spreading joy and love always makes my day better. Just simply telling someone to have a good day, or asking how they are can make all the difference for both of you. If you are the one going through things people don’t know about, still just be nice! It could turn back on you and turn your day around!

I hope you go out this week and spread some joy. Whether it’s to your friends and family or maybe to a stranger, just do it! You never regret being a nice person. Be the light you need and you will be the light others need in the process.

All the love,

Amber

Sometimes you just have to throw a shoe at yourself!

Okay, so you probably read that title and are wondering what the heck I am talking about. Well let me take you back to when I was around 12 or 13 years old… I had a dance teacher, who I am now besties with, that would occasionally throw shoes at us. Now, I know how that sounds, but let me tell you… we deserved it! Sometimes she would throw them because we were talking too much or because we were goofing off, but other times it would be because we didn’t remember choreography or because we messed up the same part for the 1,000th time in a row. All things we definitely shouldn’t have done! Also, please understand that it was all done in good fun and no one was ever injured by a shoe in dance class… just a disclaimer! It was something that became a regular part of our class and helped us get our lives together so Ms. Sara didn’t have to throw shoes that day.

Anyways, this became a thing for the two of us. When I graduated high school and started doing my thing, my life came full circle and I started assisting Ms. Sara at the local high school with the dance team. It was such a fun opportunity to work with her in a way I never had before. So pretty soon we get our groove working together, which was SO good and SO seamless, and we are just moving right along. One day at practice the girls are were messing around, all in good fun, so I took off my shoe and threw it at them! Which made everyone laugh and then get back on track. Soon, this just became our normal thing. I would threaten to throw my shoe at them or actually do it, and we would laugh and then get back on track.

My point is, we all get off track sometimes whether it’s at dance practice, work or just in life. We just have to find what helps us reel it back in and move forward. I like using the shoe analogy for this because it becomes way more light hearted. I have a heavy history of being very hard on myself and this helps to lighten that. When I think about having a shoe thrown at me, it never was something so serious and truly threatening. It is something that just tells me I’m off track and helps me to laugh it off and get back to business.

I hope that you aren’t being too hard on yourself if you get off track. I hope that you are able to give yourself some grace and patience. You are doing what you can! If you feel you need to refocus and get back to business, just throw a shoe at yourself and get going!

All the love,

Amber